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LIVING IN THE PAST SELF
by Anthony Iannarino sell your home with me THE FRAZIER HUGHES EXPERIENCE.
The most frequent question podcast hosts ask me is, “If you could back and offer your twenty-something-year-old self some advice, what would you tell him?” I used to try to answer this question, but I was never satisfied with my answers. Mostly I was trying to be polite and say something that might help someone else, which is the purpose of the exercise.
Here is why you should not want to go back and offer advice to your twenty-something-year-old self.
Being Grateful for Your Path
All the good and bad decisions you made brought you to this point. All the good things and bad things that happened to you were all part of that path. Whoever you are now is the result of all of your experiences. If you are truly grateful, you have to be thankful for the path that brought you here.
As much as you might have liked to avoid some of the negative experiences and having spent too much time figuring things out, going back and changing something would mean a different path. Not only would you not be who you are now, but your path wouldn’t likely have been any better than the one you traveled to get this point.
My 23 year old self might have listened to whatever advice I would have given him, but he wasn’t likely to act on at that time. He knew too much at that time and only decided it was better not to know anything and to pay attention and learn many years later. But the advice wouldn’t have helped him much anyway, and it wouldn’t have helped you either.
A Different Path
A different path would have meant that you avoided some mistakes only to make new and different mistakes, mistakes that you wouldn’t have liked any better than the ones you made. You would have made different choices, and you would have a different set of regrets. The perfect life you might believe you would have lived would be made of mistakes, missteps, and missed opportunities, even if they were different than the ones you experienced. That perfect life would still have been full of joy and happiness and loss and suffering because these are the things that make up every life.
You have to be grateful for the adversity you faced because it is what made you stronger.
All the many mistakes you made are what eventually made you wiser.
The many losses you have suffered are what finally made you appreciate what you have.
All of your fears are what allowed you to find the courage hidden inside you.
Your critics proved you were creating something that required a reaction.
The things that were inadequate provided you with your drive to make things better.
Your anger proved you cared about something enough to fight for it.
Even though it is challenging to accept, you have to be grateful for the whole path, not just the good parts, the easy parts.
No Time Machine
The thought experiment that is looking backward to decide what you wished you would have known or to identify what you might have done differently isn’t nearly as useful as a different exercise. You have already paid for mistakes of the past and acquired the wisdom you would share with your younger self. Instead of asking yourself what you might have done differently in the long distant past, you should ask yourself what advice should be giving yourself now.
While you can’t do anything about your past, you right now possess the power to do something about your future. You can choose to take action to prevent your future regrets. A better thought experiment means asking yourself what Future You is going to wish you had done now. Instead of talking to the twenty-year-old version of yourself, you should speak to the person you are now and convince them to stop making the mistake that is going to impact the future version of yourself.
Why would you spend time contemplating a different past, something you can never change, when you have the power to change your future now?
Anthony Iannarino | October 27, 2019 at 6:12 am | URL: https://wp.me/pBQYk-haK
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4 REASONS TO CHECK ON YOUR RENTAL PROPERTY
“I am tired of being a landlord and dealing with tenants.” I hear this all the time!
I can sell your home and run into many landlords who’s tenants have moved out or are still in the property and they are ready to move on.
It’s important to check on your property. Even if you have a great tenant.
Here are 4 reasons why…
Tom let his daughter move into his house and pay a fair rent because he loved her. HE never check on property. She’s his baby girl. Months later, her new boyfriend he was unaware of moved in. He is not a nice guy. He put holes in the doors. She is a hoarder and began stockpiling trash bags of personal belongings, and not to mention they do not clean… at all. He walked in months later (like the rest of the stories) to find this!!
Liz who owns her own business is too busy to check on her property. Her tenant did not tell her there was a water leak from the roof! Rain after rain brought this PAIN. It caused thousands of dollars of damage to ceilings and hardwood floors and not she is in a fight with the insurance company to fix it and has no tenants and is losing rent.
Doug for 6 years was always paid on time by his tenants. He figured, he had a good thing going and did not visit his tenants for 2 years. Then the rent became late and they came up with excuses to not pay with stories that pulled at his heartstrings. Finally he stopped by to see the basement was flooded during a past storm, a gutter hanging off, not to mention they had the electricity turned off because of not able to pay and there was mold!
Wait you are not on the lease! Roger rented his 3 bedroom house to a young twenty something single mom who without his permission rented out the other two rooms and they had padlocks on the doors! They loved drugs but not him. Rent was paid on time but the other tenants trashed the rooms and now he’s got to pay way more than her deposit!
All they had to do was check…
Now that’s just 4 and I am sure you can share with me one more! Let me know and I will contribute your reason to my blog to help other landlords like you have a better experience and save thousands.
Did you know that if you sell your home with me, we work with the tenants to let them stay or help them move on with money to find a new place or we will help you remove them too! It’s a Quick Fix.
Written by Realtor for Keller Williams and Acquisition Manager For Investing Company Quick Fix Real Estate, Frazier Hughes. There is only one EXPERIENCE.
