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IT’S AN INSIDE JOB

 When it comes to changing ourselves a lot of us look to the outside for instant gratification. Here are some the things that people look for to make them happy:

  • Money
  • Relationships
  • Work

While all of these things are needed in our life and our important true happiness comes from the inside because if we rely on these other things we will never be happy because they can always let us down.

 

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Being True To Yourself

Are you true to yourself? Think about it? Do you hang with other people just to get their approval? For many of us this can fall into several categories.

Let’s break it down:

  • Work: many of us are at a job we don’t like. Fortunately, I enjoy training people and watching them change, motivating them to be their best. This is my raw talent. What is your raw talent & are you using it? If so, does it bring you joy? Follow what feeds your spirit and soul and the money will come. You’ve only got one life.
  • Love I cannot tell you how many people are in relationships that they should not be just because they want the other person’s approval. I am guilty of this as well. It is normal to want approval but to love the other person more than you love yourself and abandon yourself and your values is unhealthy? Are you true to yourself in your relationship or just a puppet?
  • Your Friends My father once said to me when I was in preschool “You will only have a few people in life you can call true friends.” How true it is. Are your friends your real friends or just mannequins standing still who seem to care but don’t and you just hang around them to impress them? Real friends give you good solid advice and don’t co-sign your lies, they help you be real and are understanding and there for you. They are not takers.

It can be scary to follow your dreams. Failure is certain as you will stumble along the way but the payoff is HUGE. And when you are true to yourself and express how you really feel, it can be scary. This brings you true peace and fear as when you tell someone what you really feel.

In both cases you face rejection and in both cases you face pain but it will all make you stronger as you (I hope you do) learn from your valleys for at the top of the mountain, you are closer to being to the peak of Being True to Yourself.

Questions: Why am I in a job I don’t like & not using my raw talent? Why am I not speaking up with my partner? And why do I not tell my friends (or hang with them) how I really feel?

By FrazierHughes.com #hughesorlose

6 Promises You Should Make to Yourself and Keep Forever

Here is an article I say Hughes it to! It is from Marc and Angel Hack Life. Check out their site for other valuable life learning lessons at http://www.marcandangel.com/


6 Promises You Should Make to Yourself and Keep Forever

Life is not all rainbows and butterflies. It can be tough sometimes. And you’ve paid a heavy price to get this far, so the best option is to really make it count by moving forward from where you are. Free yourself from the world’s negativity – from the sources of ignorance telling you what you can and cannot do – by promising to look ahead, to live ahead, and to get ahead. In other words, start making positive promises to yourself!

Promise to fight back, to fight harder, to laugh louder and longer and slap adversity back into its seat whenever it dares to stand against you. Promise to be a force to be reckoned with – because you are a force to be reckoned with.

Make these promises to yourself, and keep them forever.

Repeat after me: “I promise…”

1. “I will not hold the past against myself.” – Your problems, your weaknesses, setbacks, regrets and mistakes teach you if you’re willing to learn, or they will punish you if you’re not. So let them teach you, every day. Take everything as a lesson learned. If you regret some of the decisions you have made in the past, stop being so hard on yourself. At that time, you did your best with the knowledge you had. At that time, you did your best with the experience you had. Your decisions were made with a younger mind. If you were to make these decisions with the wisdom you have today, you would choose differently. So give yourself a break. Time and experience has a wonderful way of helping us grow and learn to make better choices today, for ourselves and those we care for.

2. “I will own my life and never deny responsibility for it.” – Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your teachers, your mentors, the education system, the government, etc., but never to blame yourself. Right? It’s never, ever your fault… WRONG! It’s always your fault, because if you want to change, if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen. It’s YOUR move to make. It’s YOUR responsibility. Own it!

3. “I will live a life that feels right to me, not one that looks right to everyone else.” – Give yourself permission to follow the path that makes YOU happy. And realize that some people in your life will refuse to walk beside you as you embark on this journey; they simply won’t approve no matter what you say, and that’s OK. Sometimes when you commit yourself to creating your own happiness, it clashes with the perceptions of others. Sometimes when you gain something great, you have to let go of something else. And sometimes this ‘something else’ is a relationship that only wants you to do what they want you to do.

4. “I will let go of relationships that are obviously not meant to be.” – Most people come into your life temporarily simply to teach you something. They come and they go and they make a difference. And it’s OK that they’re not in your life anymore. Not all relationships last, but the lessons these relationships bring to you do. If you learn to open your heart and mind, anyone, including the folks who eventually drive you mad, can teach you something worthwhile. Sometimes it will feel weird when you realize you spent so much time with someone you are no longer connected to, but that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be. We all are.

5. “I will not let any situation permanently steal my smile.” – Even when times are tough, take a moment to pause and remember who YOU are. Take a moment to reflect on the things that have real and lasting meaning in your life. And then smile about how far you’ve come. Honestly, nothing in this world is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears. Any fool can be happy when times are easy. It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make us weep. No matter how long it takes, it will get better. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.

6. “I will keep stretching myself beyond my previous level of comfort.” – Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Know this! When you’re struggling, that’s when you’re growing stronger and smarter. The more time you spend there, the faster you learn. It’s better to spend an extremely high quality ten minutes growing, than it is to spend a mediocre hour running in place. Every day, you want to practice at the point where you are on the edge of your ability, stretching yourself over and over again, making mistakes, stumbling, learning from those mistakes and stretching yourself even farther.